“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” -Albert Einstein
I was recently standing on a bench in Washington Square Park in NYC, and went for a funny stretch on one leg. Not the strangest thing going on in the park, but it felt like a fun thing to do at the time. Within a minute, a woman working in park security came by and asked “what are you doing, stretching?” I responded “Yes, stretching” she continued “Is that how you stretch?” and I responded once more “Yes indeed, this is how I stretch”, and then she left.
Quite a boring story I must admit, but one that was quite fun from my perspective, and allows me to give you a simple example of what this last End Game Concept is all about. Of all of them, this is the most practical, and most powerful. You need not read any books or take on any mentorship, to grow rapidly with this strategy.
You do something new, you evaluate what happened, and you calibrate your perspective based off this new knowledge.
If you think standing on benches is a weird thing to do, because everyone will judge you, and point and laugh at you, or talk about you behind your back, the best way to find out what actually happens, is to follow this DEC principle. Do it, evaluate when you see what actually happens, and not what your brain constructed idea was, and then adjust your perspective based off the new information.
Clearly if you are doing this for something new, you may need more then one attempt to fully integrate a new perspective. Yet, you’re not doing it for a particular result, this is purely as a fool, you’ve let go of what may happen, and are genuinely curious to learn the truth for yourself.
As I gave an example in a previous post, with saying “Hi” to strangers on the street, perhaps it feels like a very pointless or easy thing to do, and then you go to do it, and you feel some anxiety and you’re worried about what may happen. Perfect! Start using this feeling as an opportunity to apply this principle.
Okay so I’m scared of saying “Hi” to random people, but I’m going to try it. I’ve done it, now let me evaluate what happened, okay, that guy was sort of cold and ignored me, the lesson so far is not “people are cold and won’t respond” literally at this point it’s “that one guy was cold and didn’t respond” or play the reframe game “he must not have heard me”. Then you say it to a second and third, both smile and say “Hi” back. Perhaps one of them even stops to see if you wanted something.
New evidence, some people are “cold” and others are “friendly”, even when you did the same thing to all of them. What you did, had not changed, but others reactions changed, therefore, the variable here was not you, but them. In this case, you’ve calibrated your perspective to see how people behave.
Though if you are always getting a particular result, perhaps the thing that needs to be calibrated is your action. In this example, try to smile and wave. See how that may change things. Perhaps more effort to smile at strangers increases how many of them give you a friendly response.
Over my years of learning, this was my single greatest lesson. Do something, evaluate what happened, and then calibrate yourself or your perspective, to have an understanding closer to the truth. You can use this in job interviews, dates, social experiments, the way you talk to your kids, the way you interact with your community, anything at all.
Every aspect of your life allows you to try new things, be aware of what happened, and then work the results into your new understanding. That’s all you need to do, truly.